Who are we?
Is it nature or nurture?
Why can some people do these things, but others can’t?
In just a moment, I will present the short version of my own ever-developing answer to these questions. The long version is, of course available; just message me and I will be pleased to spend hours and weeks and years researching, analyzing, and debating with you. But please, know what you’re getting into if you ask for that version. Don’t ask if you’re not committed to spending the energy and time on that.
Oh. Whoops. Spoiled the big reveal a bit there.
Did you catch it?
I’ll give you a hint:
“If you’re not committed to spending energy and time on that.”
That’s it. It doesn’t matter where you come from, what your initial abilities are, or even how much money you have or what gender or race you are. Ok, yeah, it does matter. But these things are just factors. There is no fate, there is no divine will. Fate and God can both have you bump into the same person every day for years hoping that you’ll get the hint and realize you should maybe talk to them. But that’s it. You decide whether you talk to them.
(If you’re a Christian and disagree with this, than perhaps you shouldn’t believe in a religion with a fundamental basis in the belief that humans have free will. Either we do and we’re human, or we don’t and we’re just angels. Oh, but wait. Wasn’t Lucifer an angel?)
We’re humans. We’re mortal. We all only have so much time. And our body needs rest and sustenance, so we only have so much energy too. Some of us have more energy than others. Some of us have more time than others.
Some of us may choose to spend our time and energy pursuing things that are easy for us to reach: like an old white man becoming president. Some of us choose to spend our time and energy pursuing things that we may never reach: like a woman trying for presidency and never reaching it.
By the way, to throw another short version of my beliefs out into the wild, I believe it is these latter people—who choose to pursue the things that may actually never be achievable to them—who change our world. We have had a lot of old white male presidents. Some of them were exceptional, some are ones we would rather not talk about as a nation, and others did absolutely nothing worth remembering or talking about. However, we have only had one black male president. And he has changed the world. Or, at least, America. By becoming president, he has changed reality for every black person in this country. You see, the miracle in someone accomplishing something “first” is not in their ability to do whatever they did. The miracle is that everyone else knows that it’s possible after they have done it. They are not “The Best” and will never be the best because they have inspired other people to go above and beyond them. By pushing aside the boundaries for themselves, they make it possible for others to pass that boundary and the next one.
So what and who do you spend your time and energy on?
If you are voting for a candidate for the USA presidency because you want to spend your time and energy on making other people as angry about the state of this nation, or the world, as you are, then I’m not sure what to say to you. As someone with very limited energy compared to others, I can’t imagine wasting what little energy and time I do have in making other people angry. Why vote at all? Use that time and energy on what makes you happy or fulfilled. If making others angry is what makes you happy, then actually, you’re spending energy on yourself I guess. And while I may not agree with your perspective, I do believe it is better that you’re spending on yourself, rather than on other people who you don’t actually care about. At least you get some benefit. And if you’re not getting benefit from it, then why are you bothering?
If you are voting for someone who you do not spend time or energy on, then again, you are wasting what you have. If you do not read or listen to anything they say, if you do not even try to figure out if what they claim is true, then is it really that important to you?
To vote: ask yourself what you care about. Then research which candidate has the platform you agree with. If what is most important to you is that women cannot abort. Fine. Vote for someone who agrees. If what is most important to you is making money or keeping your money. Fine. Vote for someone who agrees. But tell yourself the truth about who you are voting for and why you are voting for them. And if you voted for them because there is something that is important to you, then voting is NEVER the end.
The important things are things that you spend energy and time on. You are who you are because of how you choose to spend these two resources. If you voted for someone because he said he would do something, then if it’s still important to you, you would make sure that this thing that you wanted accomplished, was accomplished. If you’re not making sure the changes, or non-changes, you wanted to happen, happened, then those “important” things are not important to you. If they are not worth your effort or time, then that is not important. So vote for what is important to you every time you vote. If what is important to you has changed, then change who you vote for. If what is important to you is still the same, but the person you voted for has not done what you wanted them to do, then change who you vote for.
And spending time and energy does NOT necessarily mean continual work. It means continual thought. If you cannot watch or read the news every day, that’s fine. But if you care about something, you will think about it, and decide when you can do that thing. For example, I want to be a good violinist. But I do not practice every day. I do, however, listen to music every day. And I dream about playing my violin. So I will be a good violinist. (However, I will not be The Best violinist.)
So to live: choose what to spend time and energy on. Often, in order to do what you want, you have to spend time and energy on things you don’t want to do in order to do what you want. For us humans, time and energy are measured. Time might run backwards in the universe, but it doesn’t for us. If we spend time reading a book then that time is time we never get back. We’ll have more time that can be devoted to other things, but we do not get the time we already spent back. We do not get energy we already used back. And so every minute of our lives we are making a choice, whether we want to realize it or not, about what is most important in that very minute. Perhaps this is where duality comes from. Ultimately, we rarely get to choose all of our important things all at once. We have to put one above the others one day, and a different one above the rest another day.
And we may not have as much time or energy in our futures as we expected.
So live each minute, each hour, each day, each week, each month, each year by paying attention to what you spend your time and energy on, and make sure you are willing to pay the cost.